Rogers report in favor of the prenatal child
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A report “Rogers” for the child’s prenatal
An important role of prenatal tutor (operator ANEP) is to foster the good relationship between parents, child and prenatal alloparenti. It discusses the themes of empathic listening (active-emotional) role of the operator, derived from transactional analysis, parent’s legal parent and positive affective positive and, underlying everything, There is always looking for those behaviors that veicolino, family waiting, recognition of need, trust and understanding for the difficulties, use of positive confirmation, empathy.
It is thus not only provide support to enable parents and families to organize themselves according to the new project of life but also that there is identity of form and content as the prenatal tutor becomes the eyes of new parents, the parental figure reference whose roles could be replicated by the parent in the relationship with the child.
The three conditions “Rogers” for a good relationship between counselor and client can come here and act is taken in relation prenatal tutor – family waiting in the family relationship on hold – prenatal baby.
The first condition: empathy
Empathy is particularly deep feeling that goes beyond positive or negative connotations of sympathy or antipathy, is the emotion that is “it”. Hence empathic listening, cornerstone of prenatal education, listening to what comes on the emotional plane to search for what strikes the strings of the deep. Are excluded from this hearing the proceedings, the board, the tension of having to “act to be done” to resolve the problem of the other.
Empathic listening is obtained a personal enrichment and will support the party because they alone are the answers to his questions.
Active listening and emotional interlocutor gives the possibility to express themselves without misunderstandings, to accept their limitations, to expose themselves felt able to do so.
Our listening habits are somewhat influenced by models learned by children and the way in which we reported early gestational age. Adequate feedback from conception will be important for the training of listening skills in adulthood.
The prenatal tutor, urging parents empathic contact with his son himself becomes emphatic in his relationship with them trying to promote the “actualizing tendency”, the innate tendency to its star player, to make their own though.
Every parent tends to be a good parent and every child in her underwear tends to be sweet. Even the physical appearance of man cub goes to confirm the tendency of the child to be loved and protected, emotionally stimulating that listening in the parent who takes him to respond, if he is “dysfunctional”, with protective and loving attitude.
It is the “land easing” that allows the parent and the child (even prenatal) to be “the best” effective in its communication. The land, however, is often contaminated by those past experiences, from family or social rules to which we were accustomed, and so on.
The actualizing tendency to be a “good mother” is its “simplifying the ground” in its dialogue hormone that takes place at depths between her and her baby from conception, the expectant father also change the hormonal levels that lead to maternal behavior and restraining against the company and his son coming. These parents already know that deep, responding to their most intimate, what attitude to have to promote the entry into their role.
The operator ANEP prenatal tutor should be a facilitator of actualizing these trends, using empathy but also unconditional acceptance and positive congruence, the other two conditions in the report “Rogers.”
The second condition: unconditional positive acceptance
The concept is linked to the recognition and respect for others’ differences, accept the diversity of the other even without approval. You hear what the other is important for trying to restore what he may want to realize his if his actualizing tendency.
In the run tied the woman prenatal education, as well as show his emotional body and the reciprocity of the psycho-tactile communication with her baby, enters his parental role and began a process of change that will lead to awareness of the uniqueness of his relationship with his son and the posting patterns learned, but not internalized, by her mother, the environment, the socio-cultural substratum to which it belongs.
In all of this is very important that it is free to express what they considered important for himself and the baby, without feeling judged or labeled “ground so requires a facilitative and unconditional positive acceptance that will not be judgmental or tagging against his child.
An example.
Maternity: – My mother says I’m lazy and I both know that this here (patting his stomach) took from me. Do not want to ever play! (Referring to games of bonding) – The tone is a bit ’sad.
In this case the mother has given her child a legacy tied to a review reported that she apparently made her suffer and has conditioned behavior. The prenatal tutors, after hearing the woman, could delay the impact of pain related to the sentence pronounced in this way back in to her emotions and reflections on whether or not to act like a ‘repeat’ against his child prenatally.
There are no empathy and unconditional positive acceptance if there is no congruence.
The third condition: congruence
The consistency is not necessarily translatable “authenticity” is the return of what the other may serve after the recognition of that, his words have impacted me. Being consistent does not mean speak truth to the bitter end but also be true only in reference to a small part of me.
The operator ANEP prenatal tutor, when acting with the couple, must be very careful and refer to the same behaviors that strengthen the convictions of the same negative (rejection, abandonment, critical distance, devaluation) in this way would answer feelings of anger or emotional withdrawal that perpetuate a vicious circle. Should instead read, the family waiting, the positive trends and evaluate them in order to strengthen the conviction of being able, skilled, capable, effective.
The prenatal educator who has led the new family in the most fertile ground to sprout their roles will have given the child the opportunity to have parents born empathic, congruent, accepting that with their feedback gave him greater confidence and improved ability to report and listening.
To quote Rogers is all about love … free to treat other affectionately. You try to convey the love when it comes to helping “as the only operator, parents, child and prenatal parenting.